The Narrative Of Your Life

The literal term of narrative means – “a spoken or written account of connected events; a story.”

As one goes through life, she/he learns that narrative is a sum of your conscious as well as unconscious decisions and the subsequent consequences arising from those decisions.

In order to build a meaningful and beautiful narrative of one’s time on earth, she/he must build the ability to take meaningful decisions and the will to accept the outcomes of the same.

This is the formula of building one’s life narrative.

Source – Google

The strength of your narrative is directly proportional to your decision making skill.

From the moment you wake up to the time you’re going to bed, you’re constantly taking hundred of decisions that are compounding your narrative.

From deciding your outfit of the day, daily meals, work, investment and relationship decisions – your narrative is weaved by the answers you decide for these questions.

Personally, I often think about the real estate investment that my father had to sell at a loss during a financially distressed period of our lives.

What if he hadn’t sold off that property? What was he thinking before investing his life savings into that asset? What can be done next?

As my colleague says, the mind is a perpetual thinking machine and I often remember his remark while observing my thoughts. A lot of good is lost in overthinking, a lot of good is obtained from observation.

I know my father’s heart and mind was in the right space while taking this decision about our financial security. But what happened is, he did not account for the sudden external events that changed the course of his life.

After this incident, I as a naive millennial in this fast paced world have built the tendency to take very calculative decisions and also accounting for contingent events.

Decision making is such a complex process yet the most crucial life skill that one should master for navigating their path.

Decision making is based on factual information, one’s past, accounting contingent events, internal belief system, one’s self esteem and level of emotional intelligence that she/he may possesses.

Emotional Intelligence is such a crucial being of us. It refers to the ability to recognize your emotions, understand what they’re telling you, and realize how your emotions affect people around you. It also involves your perception of others: when you understand how they feel, this allows you to manage relationships more effectively.

One’s life narrative is as unique as her/his fingerprint in this life. It’s our exclusive life account. The story by which your parents, your children and grandchildren will remember you by.

So, the next time you’re taking any minor and major life decision – make sure that your emotional health is in an excellent functioning state.

From a place of clarity, peace and mindfulness we learn to build onto our narrative.

While it’s important to keep up with technological skills like python, machine learning, effective communication and brand management, it is equally or even more important to master the life skill of decision making.

Of all the successful people I’ve met or read about, the most empowered ones were those who took control of their narrative. They defied the limitations that society and their families had put on them.

In the end, life is a story. What does yours say?

4 comments

  1. This is such a well articulated article ! Bravo !!! Thank you so much for sharing your personal story with us. It’s enriching and definitely makes one think. There is so much truth in taking control of the narrative and not submitting to what is expected from anyone else but your heart. Thank you Aishwarya for this beautiful piece.

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